As our parents age, it’s only natural for us to become more involved in their lives. Whether it’s lending a listening ear, helping them with groceries, or taking them to doctor’s appointments, we want to be there for them in any way we can. But how do you know when it’s time to step in and offer more significant assistance? It can be a tough question to answer, but one way to get started is by identifying the areas where your parents may need more help.
In this blog post, we will discuss the four categories of help that your aging parents may require, including home safety, home management, healthcare needs, and nutrition and hygiene. By understanding these categories, you can begin to identify the needs of your parents and put together a plan to provide the appropriate resources for each category of need.
As our parents age, we find ourselves in a unique situation where we must transition from their dependents to their caregivers. It is never easy to see our parents’ age and grow more dependent on us.
As much as we would like to deny the fact, the truth is that as they grow older, our parents may require more assistance. Whether it is a little extra help around the house, meal planning, assistance with their healthcare needs, or simply someone to talk to, it is important to know the signs that your aging parents may need help.
It can be a difficult and overwhelming transition, especially when it’s unclear when and how we should extend our support. In order to make this transition smooth and seamless, we must first identify the individual needs of our aging parents.
1. Home Safety:
As our parents age, they may experience difficulties with mobility or balance, which can lead to falls or other accidents. It is important to assess their living space for potential hazards and make necessary accommodations to reduce the risk of injury. This may include installing grab bars in the bathroom, removing rugs or other tripping hazards, and ensuring that their living space is well-lit. If your parents have difficulty navigating stairs, you may need to consider installing a stairlift or making other modifications to their home.
A friend of ours shared a story of her day living home alone and he kept his cat’s litter box down in the basement for a better “odor control.” One day he fell down the stairs and broke his hip when he was going to clean and change out the litter. He ended up in a nursing home for a while, transitioned to assisted living and that was the last day he spent in his home.
As our parents age, the safety of their home becomes increasingly important. This category encompasses everything from fall prevention to technology that can alert us in case of an emergency. Proper lighting in the house is also important, it would help them see their way around, and reduce the risk of falls, especially a night light to help them when they get up in the middle of the night to use the rest room. Additionally, a medical alert system can be helpful in alerting you when your loved one needs assistance.
One of the most pressing concerns for aging parents is safety in the home. Start by inspecting your parents’ home for any potential hazards, such as loose carpets, how they are negotiating their stairs, what they can do without going up or down stairs, cluttered walkways, or poor lighting. If necessary, consider hiring a professional to make modifications to the home to ensure that it’s safe and accessible for your parents. It is important to find someone that has the credentials and insurance for installing these types of safety equipment. This might include installing handrails, grab bars, or ramps as needed. Additionally, you may want to consider setting up a system for checking in on your parents regularly to ensure that they’re doing well and that their home is safe. A nanny camera would not be a bad idea.
2. Managing the Home
Managing a household can be challenging for anyone, and as our parents grow older, they may need assistance with daily tasks such as laundry, cleaning, and grocery shopping. It is important to have an open and honest conversation with your parents about their needs and how you can assist them. You may need to consider hiring a housekeeper or caregiver to help your parents with these tasks, or you may need to take on some of the responsibilities yourself.
It is important to recognize the subtle signs for each category. We have a free check list “11 Signs Your Aging Parent May Need Help in the Home.” These signs include such things as finding stacks of unpaid bills in their home, or their pet care is not up to their normal standards.
As your parents age, they may begin to struggle with everyday tasks like cooking, cleaning, paying bills, remembering doctor’s appointments, or maintaining their home. If you notice that your parents are falling behind on these tasks, it may be time to step in and offer more assistance. This could involve helping with grocery shopping or meal prep, hiring a cleaning service, or even looking into assisted living options if necessary. Be sure to talk to your parents about their preferences and how they feel about the idea of getting help with these tasks.
3. Health Management
As our parents age, they may require more frequent medical appointments and assistance with managing their medications. It is important to stay on top of their healthcare needs and ensure that they are receiving the appropriate treatment. This may include accompanying them to doctor’s appointments, helping them manage their medications, and coordinating with healthcare professionals to ensure they are receiving the best possible care. A nurse advocate could be a resource here.
It’s essential to be aware of your parent’s medical needs as it’s the most important area of support that requires attention. Furthermore, if your parents require assistance with mobility, rehabilitation services may be beneficial to their well-being.
As we age, our healthcare needs can become more complex. Whether it’s managing medications, monitoring chronic conditions, or coordinating doctor’s appointments, your aging parents may need more assistance in this area. Start by having a conversation with your parents about their current healthcare needs and any concerns they have. From there, you can work together to create a plan for managing their healthcare, whether that involves enlisting a caregiver, hiring a nurse advocate, or coordinating transportation to appointments.
4. Nutrition and Hygiene
Finally, it’s important to consider your parents’ nutrition and hygiene needs. If your parents are struggling to maintain a healthy diet or are having difficulty with basic hygiene tasks, it may be time to step in and offer more assistance. Have you noticed any weight loss? This area of needs could involve meal planning, grocery shopping, helping with grooming or bathing, or even hiring a home health aide. Often our parents feel uncomfortable with a son or daughter helping them with personal cares such as bathing. This is where some home assistance from a caregiver may be very beneficial.
The key is to work with your parents to identify their specific needs and find solutions that work for everyone.
Proper nutrition and hygiene are essential to maintaining good health, especially as our parents age. You may need to assist your parents with meal planning and preparation, ensuring that they are getting the nutrients they need. As they age cooking may become more difficult and you may find more items such as frozen pizzas or other frozen meals. We need to be careful here especially if your loved one needs to watch the amount of salt in their diet.
Conclusion:
Caring for aging parents can be a challenging and emotional journey. However, by understanding the needs of your parents and identifying the appropriate resources for each category of need, you can provide the support and assistance they need to age with grace and dignity. Remember, it is important to have open and honest conversations with your parents about their needs and to be as supportive and compassionate as possible. With patience and perseverance, you can ensure that your aging parents receive the care and assistance they need to live happy, healthy, and fulfilling lives.
Living away from home can cause extra challenges and this may be a good time to reach out to a nurse advocate for some assistance in identifying the needs and corresponding resources.
To help you further on this topic we have a beginning course for those that want to be aware of what potential needs their parents have. This is a proactive approach to stay ahead of the game and helps to prevent caring for your aging parents from becoming a burden. It is a self-paced course with slides, a workbook, audio, as well as video instruction from us. It should take only a couple of hours to complete plus the time to review your parents’ situation to see which of the 4 categories of needs they may show some concerns.
The course will also identify some resources you can take action on right away to begin to put your plan in place. You can learn more about the course HERE.
Determining when to provide assistance to our aging parents requires us to be diligent and compassionate. By identifying their specific needs for home safety, home management, healthcare needs, and nutrition & hygiene, we can build a comprehensive plan to provide them with the necessary care and support. Although the transition may be difficult, keep in mind that by extending our assistance, we’re providing our aging parents with a better quality of life and helping them age gracefully.
By working together, you can ensure that your parents are receiving the support and assistance they need to thrive in their later years while keeping them home safely for as long as possible.
Thanks for stopping by and spending some time with us. Our goal is to bring you valuable and actionable items you can use right away in assisting to care for your aging parents.
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Take care,
Pam and Linda
Your Nurse Advocates
Your Nurse Advocate Consulting, LLC
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